When your other half is gone…

She’s still young, 30 years old wifey….with 2 years old daughter

And she just lost her husband yesterday, aged 36. Al-fatihah....

I dunno what advise to give her….since none of us have experienced that...

When I received the SMS yesterday….I’m really shocked…terkejut kejap…macam tak nak percaya that my close friend is now a widow…Mmg aku terduduk sekejap, termenung dan berfikir. It’s unexpected..and so sudden..

First time in my life…..aku rasa mandi cam tak basah

Last time spoken to arwah is early November when we celebrate his daughter’s birthdayLast time I met him is last Tuesday….itupon from far while me and elly lepak kat Kopitiam cyberjaya

And yesterday he left us all at 5.30am….his wife Amiza, her daughter Sarra, his friends and family…

And today is his 36^th birthday. To harris izham, happy birthday….we will celebrate and cherish ur life here…..U have fun up there… :)

Ok, that’s the intro….

What I want to share is when you have lost you companionship. Half of you is gone…

You are missing a good friend, a partner in crime, a husband, a leader, a sleeping partner, your strength,…seesssshhhh, I can’t ever think of that….And I knew, it’s hard for her to go through this…

When nite comes, u’re sleeping alone…no one beside you for you to kiss and cuddle

And when the morning comes, there’s no one to greet you “ good morning, sayang “. And when you dressed up to office – no one to comment on you appearance - Sayang, how do I look…? Ok tak pakai baju nie..?

And during the day, there’s no one to SMS – Sayang, u dah makan..? Sayang, u kat ner…? Sayang, I will be back late, still in the meeting. Sayang, mtg nie boring laaa, Miss you..!

The hardest part..is when you have to sleep alone, staring to all his belongings – his shirt, toothbrush, try to find his smell on the pillow and blanket…

Ya Allah….seriously it’s toughhhh….

And what happened – when one night, you are not in the good terms with your partner. And because you are angry with him….you disregard to tell him how much you love him, he’s the best man ever and you are being thankful for having him in your life….and the next morning…he’s gone…!!!!

OMG…..you’ll be in regrets forever…!!!

So to all my friends out there….if you adore your partner, love and forgive your partner endlessly. If possible, kalo boleh…time nak tido tuh…we are in a good terms with our partner. Let him know how much you love him, how much you care for him, ask forgiveness from him.. cause sometime we take things for granted guessing that tomorrow we will make up, assuming that esok2 ilang lah merajuk tuh, ilang lah marah tuh….. No, please don’t….cause we will never know what will happened tomorrow….. and you dun want to live in regrets...

p/s : Dear Amiza, I know it's not easy for you. It will takes some time for you to pull through all this.You need to go through this slowly, day by day...one step at a time. If you need any help just let us know...Will be there for you, that's what good friend are for...

The feeling of missing him can never be replace......but through out the time the feeling will pass and you will move on. Be strong, be tough for lil' Sarra...We love you...!!

Harris is already free.....We just awaits for our time to be free........But in mean time, the dance floor is ours. What are you waiting for....Let's dance babe....!!!

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